Filipinos are famously warm, generous and welcoming. You do not need to learn many rules to be a good guest, but a few small gestures go a long way and will often earn you a big smile.
Respect and politeness
- Po and opo: adding "po" to a sentence, and saying "opo" for yes, shows respect, especially to older people. Visitors who try it are always appreciated.
- Kuya and ate: "older brother" and "older sister" are polite, friendly ways to address drivers, staff and vendors.
- Mano: younger Filipinos greet elders by taking their hand and touching it to their forehead. You will see it at family gatherings; you are not expected to do it, but it is lovely to understand.
Saving face
Open anger or raising your voice in public is considered embarrassing for everyone. If something goes wrong, stay calm and friendly; problems get solved faster that way. Filipinos may also avoid saying a direct "no", so listen for a polite "maybe" or "we will try".
Time
"Filipino time" is a gentle joke about relaxed schedules. Social events often start late; flights and boats, however, leave on time, so be punctual for transport.
Food and eating
Meals are shared and generous. You may be offered food again and again; it is fine to accept a little. Eating with your hands (kamayan) is traditional, especially at a boodle fight, a feast served on banana leaves. Wash your hands, use your right hand and enjoy it. Rice comes with almost everything.
Churches and religion
The Philippines is mostly Catholic, with a Muslim community mainly in Mindanao. In churches, cover shoulders and knees and stay quiet during Mass. Fiestas are joyful, open celebrations and visitors are usually welcome.
Homes
Take your shoes off when entering someone's home. Bringing a small gift such as pastries or fruit is a kind gesture.
Gestures
Filipinos often point with their lips and raise their eyebrows to say yes. "Psst" is a normal way to get someone's attention. Beckoning with your palm up can feel rude; use your palm facing down instead.
Tipping and bargaining
Tipping is appreciated but not expected. Gentle bargaining is fine at markets, but keep it light and friendly; the difference often matters more to the seller than to you.
A few useful words
Salamat (thank you), salamat po (thank you, respectfully), magandang umaga (good morning), ingat (take care) and masarap (delicious). Most Filipinos speak English, but a few words of Tagalog or the local language will always be welcomed.
